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Having a very hard time today - needed this as an outlet

First post and replies | Last post by momoftwo, 5 months ago

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I am a 2x breast cancer survivor who has always felt a bit of guilt when speaking to other survivors because I did not have to go through chemo or have my lymph nodes impacted. I know we are all survivors regardless of the journey but it has always been an element on my mind when I speak to women who have been through so much worse than I. Which leads me to my friend. She and I became friends because our kids went to elementary together. That relationship grew with other Moms into High School and now college. Our kids have gone their separate...

By YoliV5590 6 months ago
This is tough; I am so sorry that you & your friend are having to deal with this. It's okay if you tell her you don't know exactly what to say, but that you care deeply for her. You can be one of her safe spaces where she can share her feelings & her grief openly. Make sure you also have emotional support from your own loved ones so that you can better support your friend. You need an outlet for your feelings too. We are here to support you through this as well. Please keep us updated on your friend. Prayers for all of you.

By PKCG 6 months ago
I'm so sorry to hear about your friend. I can tell that you have a big heart for others because the first thing you said is that you've had cancer twice, yet you haven't suffered enough. I can point you toward a lot of people who would say that you have! One of the things that I want to point out is sort of a side note: Not that we should be comparing suffering, but regarding your treatment path, you can't tell how much someone has suffered by what treatments they went through. Some people may have side effects that others don't. Some people ...

By janedoe7 6 months ago
Just checking in with you. How are you holding up? How is your dear friend doing? Thinking of you both as you navigate this time.

By momoftwo 5 months ago
Just checking in with you. How are you holding up? How is your dear friend doing? Thinking of you both as you navigate this time.

By momoftwo 5 months ago
@pkcg thank you for your kind words. I knew this would be the right place to get some words of encouragement.

By YoliV5590 5 months ago
@janedoe7 - Thank you so much for writing this out. You're absolutely right; the comparison of pain is sometimes obvious and at other times not. Thank you for putting that into perspective. Since my writing, yes I have reflected on gratitude towards my own health, then myself and the others in my Tribe got together to deliver a care package for Easter - warm fuzzy stuffed bunny, slippers, facial mask and lots of chocolate. My friend was over the moon thankful and expressed such beautiful words to us to tell us how much she appreciated us. That ...

By YoliV5590 5 months ago
@mirkat63 - Thank you for checking in. I am in a better place mentally than I was a few weeks ago. My tribe got together to Cry it out amongst ourselves, to talk and reflect and then put that on hold while we went shopping for my friend's Easter basket of treats. It was a much needed thing for all of us. My friend is out of the hospital and in a rehaf facility at the moment. She'll be leaving soon for a Radiation plan - she's a WARRIOR and is going to fight this with all of her being. I'm proud of her and pray for her every day. Thanks for your...

By YoliV5590 5 months ago
I'm so happy to hear you're feeling a bit better. A good cry helps release those stress hormones. It sounds like you had fantastic support as a group. I'm sure your friend loved her Easter basket and all the love that went into creating it. Continue to care for yourself during this time. Sending virtual hugs to you, your tribe, and your cherished friend.

By momoftwo 5 months ago
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New to this journey

First post and replies | Last post by Gwoodhood, 7 months ago

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sharing about cancer matters

First post and replies | Last post by CCSK, 8 months ago

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On July 28, 2024, I posted for the first (and until today, the only) time on this website under the Sunshine section. I did it to encourage my friend Julie at the start of her cancer journey. Today, I am six weeks past my own diagnosis and taking my own steps on this path. Julie forwarded that earlier post to me this morning, which I'd totally forgotten until just now. So much has happened in the past six months, and especially the past six weeks. Since being diagnosed, I've been reminded that words are good, but deeds are better. Julie's de...

By CCSK 8 months ago

Scared of the “C” word

First post and replies | Last post by FOF101, 1 year ago

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I had a really hard time telling my high school daughter that I had breast cancer because we are all so scared of the “C” word. I knew she would freak out so I stayed really strong when I told her. I let her know I caught it early and that I was going to be ok. I think since I didn’t lose my hair it was easier because I looked the same. I did the genetic testing to make sure I did not have the BRCA gene and that took a weight off my shoulders. Although majority of breast cancers are not hereditary but they are spontaneous.I thought that was rea...

By FOF101 1 year ago

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Telling early worked better for me

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I was open about it

First post and replies | Last post by Iamasurvivor, 1 year ago

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No rhyme or reason

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